They will never say sorry.
They will always think they are correct
They will not mind insulting you 100 times but will be hurt if you hurt them even once .
They are always in critical situation .They will always show that they are doing favor to you and you should be obliged.
They will raise all their problems with high node .Whether they have big personal problem or their pencil is broken
You will be always co-operating with them and suddenly one day you will find that you could not do and you become useless for them.
Even when they realize that that they were wrong ,They will just say ” Oh but you know I am like that only”
You may not want to raise all the issues with them because you might be thinking its no use to raise or its time consuming to discuss.
You may suffer for days,months,years due to their verbal abuse and in some of the cases it can be physical abuse as well and finally when you feel that you are not able to take anymore and react then they will tell you how your behaviour has changed and you have some behavioral disorder .It may also happen that they come to you with full emotion trying to solve your problem because they are suffering with the psychological disorder of greatness.They always think that they are superior race and entitled for the greater respect.
It will become even worst if you tell them that your current emotional situation is because of their inappropriate behavior .They will suddenly bombard at you ,first personally and when they realize that they could not manage you personally,they become politically dangerous by showing you down in front of others with all their abilities .
He I want to explain cautiously that these people are some times better fighter because they live and practice same thing again and again.
Why do they do this ?
They think winners never apologize :-
They think if they will not remain hero if they make apology .There are some theories .I have come across one by John Waye “Never say sorry its a sign of weakness”.
They think they will be exposed if they apologize :-
We generally think that apologizing opens the door for discussion and that is the opportunity to start discussion and resolve differences but these non apologizers think differently.They think that they would loose their ground if they apologize.They will be proved wrong always if they apologize once.
They are emotionally weaker than normal people:-
In fact they emotionally weak people .It happens because they might have not got the enough importance in childhood .Ignored children learn and practice to live alone with their ego.They become comfortable with their bully attitude.
They will be selective in being sensitive to the people .Will be sensitive to only those people whom they thin are aligned with their strategy.
They cant recognize that you are suffering due to their action:-
You may give him clear incidents and example where they might be wrong and might have hurt you and caused insult to you as well as have cause harm to the common goal you have but they cant recognize because of the afore-mentioned reasons.
What to do then?
Have patience:
Where patience is the best strategy ,you have to be careful that patience doesn’t become the inadequacy of taking right decision at the right time .I have seen most of the people around me who suffer from this ,Even me .
In fact this the biggest challenge of progressive people.This is the main trait which makes people distinguished and great leaders.
Maintain distance:
Inform them that it is hurting you as many times as possible and if even after that its happening then there is only way .Stop getting hurt 🙂 .
Yes Its difficult but this comes after practicing.
“Nobody can hurt you without your permission” Mahatma Gandhi
