When Almighty designed the DNA of women, somewhere he was aware that her life is going to be full of challenges and hardships. That’s the reason why he rendered added amount of courage, patience to her because he knew better than anyone that her life is not going to be easy!
He made her the most beautiful thing on this world, and see the plight of her in today’s India. Right from her childhood she is trained to behave like a so, so nice person. Her parents never forget to remind her future duties as daughter-in- law as she is supposed to undertake that role with extreme sincerity! She is trained in the best possible so that her life will be easy dealing with all the future problems.
But after her marriage irrespective of the fact whether she marries a guy with her own choice or she accepts her parents choice, her life becomes difficult at every stage, because she undertakes the dual responsibility at every stage of her married life.
20 years of prior training is of what use if she still has to face the wrath of her so called near ones in her married life?
The thing which further kills her life is the extreme amount of hypocrisy and double standards that she has to face every day. She takes care of her adopted family every day, but the bitter truth is that if that same woman falls sick even for a single day, there is none to take care of her except her man and that too because her man has to manage with her so a little bit sympathy she gets from him.
After marriage an Indian family brings a daugher as daughter-in-law her but instead of adopting her the way she is, she is taunted like “you and your family are like this and like that”, she is rectified at every stage of her life, still she remains unworthy of the desired love and patronage of her adopted family as it will always be adopted till her last breath however hard she will try but she will always be regarded as an outsider in the vicious ring of her so called family.
The thing which further kills her soul is the extreme amount of double standards and hypocrisy that she faces. For the same fault what she does and what their own daughter does, different judgments are passed! Their own daughter will always be innocent but daughter- in – law is always at fault. Their own daughter can never be wrong and daughter-in-law can never be right?
Recently I heard something which further strengthened my belief that a woman’s life will never change in India! “ Women are kept in the family so that she can prepare and offer food to her adopted from time to time, otherwise men can tackle their youth and desires even without marriage as youth doesn’t stands for ever”!
A women has to change. She has to become a machine devoid of any emotions and expectations. She has to become Independent. She has to form her lonely world in their world. There is no point in expecting from others. The best way to deal with inhumans is to close your heart and mind and stay with them like a robot.
That same family which finds fault in her daugher-in-law don’t think that after marriage their girls will also face the same wrath.
Now I can see every Indian family is educating their daughters so that will become independent, they will start earning money so her life will be full of happiness. But what if CA’s and Doctor women are also being tortured and burnt for dowry.
So it’s not the matter of money or education which is going to solve a women’s plight in
India after marriage. It’s a matter of acceptability of other’s individuality which will solve the problem. It’s a matter of accepting her without conditions. When you will give unconditional love then she will also love your family unconditionally. But this simple truth has not been implied even after after huge amount of lectures and teachings of Ramayan being read every day in every Indian household.
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