I have seen people in corporate who continuously believe in praising themselves. They always want center seat but pretend that they do not.
When its difficult time for them, they will seek emotional help from you too and as soon as they are out of that state of mind they will start your evaluation.
No matter how many times you help them and they just disappear when you are in need, simply saying they were not aware. They will just pretend that they are donor and you are taker/:) beggar.
They will think themselves as if they are most nicest person on the earth and up to some extent they would be but over rating is their problem.
When you support them, they will feel that its their right because they are born leaders and they deserve your support.
When you need their support, they will tell you how many character flaws you have.
🙂 On top of that, they will tell all these things indirectly .
You may be knowing that they are telling you but if you ask them, they will prove you how negative person you are, and how you take everything upon you.
You may have seen them in such a state of mind where they were fighting and loosing every fight. In spite of that you might have supported them, but when they start feeling good they will find who is beneficial for them and based on that, their logic of declaring good and bad person will change .
Even if they lose their nearest of near relative, they are right because they can’t be wrong. They can speak well, they can write well, so they cant be wrong and on top of that they have all the rights to judge others.
If someone is leaving them, then its someone’s fault, but if you are even struggling in any relation then its your fault. Why because they have right to judge you, but you have only right to support them.
And every time they blame you, they will test how much effective they are. They will continue increasing bitterness in their ways of expression until you are really hurt and broken.
Its like they are using their tongue like sword and they have to make sure that the person is beheaded in one shot only.
What to do then …
Dont go into self criticism mode
Just leave them on god and do your best. Don’t seek recognition from outside world. Just seek it inside. No one can give you better judgment about yourself.
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